Updated: Dec 22, 2022
Do you ever wonder why you spent so much time on someone that didn't feel the same way about you? Later you found them to be emotionally unavailable. At what point did you realize things shifted and they pulled away? Could you have done something differently to see the signs earlier? We all have been in this situation and it can feel frustrating and disappointing! Do you think maybe you could have traces of being emotionally unavailable too? The good news is that you can change your behaviors by investing in the right amount of energy so you don't get to the point of resentment.
YOU ARE IN AN EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE RELATIONSHIP WHEN ....
Your partner is scared of marriage or a serious relationship
Your partner wants to hear about your problems and does not share their problems
Your partner is not in touch with their feelings and does not know how to express them
Your partner is not good and showing or receiving appreciation
Your partner is evasive. They have delayed texts, changed topics, or you feel there is a mystery and no full transparency
You are the only one engaging in conversations about your experiences and memories
You are the only one comfortable expressing yourself when going through a difficult time or expressing conflict with your person
Remember, actions speak louder than words. Someone can sound really nice and be affectionate, but when it comes to meaningful conversations they hide. Read between the lines and look for inconsistencies. Whatever the person is telling you silently or through actions, believe them.
5 WAYS TO BECOME AN EMOTIONAL AVAILABLE PARTNER
Commit to the relationship by being ready to be serious
Practice checking in with your feelings
Find out if you are secure in emotional availability
Choose the patterns you want to break that are in the way of a happy, healthy relationship
Be consistently open and honest